Anger Management ..huh!!
..i hate the phrases like Anger mgmt, stress mgmt! Why does anyone want to manage such devils?Anger and stress aren't something to be managed, but are to be abolished, neglected and flushed out from the system.
BUT HOW? Don't tell me such cheap tricks like counting 1 to 10 or 10 to 1 in reverse order or deep breathing or drinking water (may be beer) or going out for a walk or some such philosiphical crap!
Personally, I vent my anger by breaking something or throwing something out or expressing myself delightfully loud or insulting others or keeping mum out & burn inside - so bad huh?? Up on reflection, I think anger is some sort of chemical reaction within body in response to an unfavorable external event - and why are some events favorable and some unfavorable to us?
Because, we've certain expectations from Life and any event that meets those expectations are termed favorable and those which aren't are termed unfavorable - common sense huh? Not having expectations or desires is not a solution to flush stress or anger out - not having those is like dying; However, more realistic solution seems to be accepting life or events or circumstances as they are with proper planning for future dreams/wishes, along with an incorporated feedback mechanism. Everyone makes mistakes, but only few accept their faults and learn from those so as not to repeat - you gotta be one of those few to flush anger and stress out. If life turns out to be as exactly as you expect it to be - wouldn't that be the most boring thing? So - don't flush out life's excitement, flush out only the anger and stress part!
tata...Satish
p.s: I agree, it is easy to say and difficult to practice, but remember - no pain, no gain!
BUT HOW? Don't tell me such cheap tricks like counting 1 to 10 or 10 to 1 in reverse order or deep breathing or drinking water (may be beer) or going out for a walk or some such philosiphical crap!
Personally, I vent my anger by breaking something or throwing something out or expressing myself delightfully loud or insulting others or keeping mum out & burn inside - so bad huh?? Up on reflection, I think anger is some sort of chemical reaction within body in response to an unfavorable external event - and why are some events favorable and some unfavorable to us?
Because, we've certain expectations from Life and any event that meets those expectations are termed favorable and those which aren't are termed unfavorable - common sense huh? Not having expectations or desires is not a solution to flush stress or anger out - not having those is like dying; However, more realistic solution seems to be accepting life or events or circumstances as they are with proper planning for future dreams/wishes, along with an incorporated feedback mechanism. Everyone makes mistakes, but only few accept their faults and learn from those so as not to repeat - you gotta be one of those few to flush anger and stress out. If life turns out to be as exactly as you expect it to be - wouldn't that be the most boring thing? So - don't flush out life's excitement, flush out only the anger and stress part!
tata...Satish
p.s: I agree, it is easy to say and difficult to practice, but remember - no pain, no gain!
posted by Satish Udayagiri @ 10:11 PM
2 Comments:
At 2:05 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hi,
Wow, U told nicely how to lessen u r angry , even i do the same thing, but is it not like managing u r anger and stress? just think it. But the thing i oberved z... instead of keeping u r anger or stress inside, better to express itself, it gives lot of relief and even....Have a nice day Satish.
bye
At 9:18 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hi Satish,
Your thoughts about anger and stress management are really well organized. Your comments for the non result oriented and impractical philosophical solutions are absolutely right .It is always better to display our anger emotions in some way (can lead to materialistic loss which we don t need to feel for ) rather than keeping it inside because it may kill ourself since it is the most powerful enemy we have within .
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